What to know before starting IVF

If you’re thinking about starting fertility treatment like IVF, it can be overwhelming. You might have questions about where to start, what kind of treatment makes the most sense for you, how much it’ll cost, and what a timeline looks like. It’s important to gather as much information as you can so that you can make decisions in your care and feel like part of your own care team.

While you’re in the early stages of planning fertility treatment, there are a handful of things to consider: 

Think about how much you want to share…and who you want to share it with

Going through fertility treatment is deeply personal. While you’ll get comfortable talking to medical professionals about your body, hormones, and fertility, you might not feel like talking about it with friends or family. If you’re getting persistent questions about when you’ll start a family, you probably really don’t want to share your fertility journey. 

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Some people decide to keep their treatment private. It can help manage personal stress, plus others’ expectations and well-meaning, but ultimately frustrating, questions. Other people want to share their journeys from the very beginning, having loved ones root for them from day one. 

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Many people find it helpful to journal or document their treatment as a reminder of what they’re accomplishing, how much they’ve learned and grown, and their journey toward becoming parents. 

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There’s no right or wrong way to share information about your treatment. The bottom line: always put yourself and your well-being first. It’s not selfish, we promise. You are the most important person in your journey.

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Get familiar with the IVF process

There’s so much IVF information — and jargon! —- that it can be hard to know where to start. While the IVF process is relatively standardized, clinics’ specific protocols and treatment recommendations do vary. Our suggestion: embrace your curiosity! Start a Google Doc with links you find helpful, questions you have, and things to research further. If you have a partner, encourage them to do research, too. 

While nobody expects you to be an expert when you go to a fertility consultation, having a basic understanding of the process will help you ask better questions and feel confident in your clinic of choice. That leads us into the next important point…

Don’t be afraid to ask questions

Whether it’s your first or fifth time going through IVF, you’re bound to have questions about your treatment. Your medical team should answer any of your questions completely, openly, and without judgment. Many clinic staff members will happily answer questions after hours by email or text — they want you to know you’re in good hands. 

Monitoring appointments can be fast-paced and overwhelming, and it can be tough to remember all of your questions. Our suggestion: write down questions ahead of your appointment, and even consider emailing them to your care team so your doctor is prepared to answer you thoughtfully.

Make a list of your medications

If you take medication regularly, it’s a good idea to have a list of each medicine’s name, dosage, and how often you take it, so that your fertility doctor can make sure there won’t be any side effects with the medication they’ll prescribe. Depending on your situation, your doctor may make adjustments to your medication regimen. 

Leave supplement recommendations to the pros

There are SO many supplements available, with many promising incredible results. While there are few studies to support many of the supplements on the market, there is typically no downside to taking them. However, it’s best practice to inform your doctor about what you’re taking so they can be informed and offer recommendations.

If you smoke, it’s never too late to quit

Quitting smoking is challenging, but it’s absolutely possible and necessary before becoming pregnant. 

Smoking can impact your fertility even before conceiving a child — and smoking during a pregnancy can cause harm to you and your child. 

The good news: if you smoke, it’s never too late to stop, and there are many affordable options available to help you quit. In many cases, your body begins to recover in meaningful ways after you quit smoking. There are tons of great support groups out there that can support you. 

Clear your schedule…and take time for yourself

IVF takes time, effort, and headspace. Clearing time in your diary during the weeks and months ahead can really help. 

It can mean taking time out of your working day for your appointments and travel time, but also your downtime. 

It can be hugely beneficial to block out regular mental health breaks for yourself, including being able to decompress and socialize with people that will energize you.

Everyone’s different, but making those decisions early on (and organizing your schedule accordingly) can really help support your mental wellbeing while you go through treatment. 

Give yourself time to digest and process everything

That’s a lot to consider. Go easy on yourself and take your time as you consider this phase. Talking to friends, family, and medical professionals can help build up a supportive community around you — and even the smallest changes can make a big difference. 

Quick plug: The Gaia Community is a group of like-minded people considering and going through fertility treatment. Join the Community for support, interesting facts, and live chats and events with experts.

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