Can I take a break from trying to conceive without giving up?

Gaia Team
A team of people deeply invested in fertility science and technology
In this guide

If you’ve been on your fertility journey for a while, you’ve probably heard the well-meaning advice: “Don’t stop trying – you never know when it’ll happen!” It’s a lovely sentiment, in theory… but not so lovely when you’re running on fumes.

Fertility fatigue is real. It’s the mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion that builds up when your life starts to revolve entirely around ovulation tests, timed intercourse, fertility meds, and back-to-back appointments at the clinic. It can feel like there’s no space left for you in the process.

Here’s the truth: you are absolutely allowed to take a break from trying to conceive without it meaning you’ve “given up.”

Why taking a break from trying to conceive isn’t the same as “quitting”

Pressing pause doesn’t erase the work you’ve done or your desire to grow your family. It simply means you’re giving yourself permission to rest and recover. Trying to conceive, whether naturally or with help from treatments like IUI or IVF, is a marathon, not a sprint.

Even elite athletes schedule rest days to avoid injury. In the same way, a short, intentional break can protect your mental health, preserve your energy, and help you avoid emotional burnout.

Signs you might need a break from trying to conceive

If you’re feeling any of these, it might be your body and mind waving a white flag:

  • You’re constantly anxious in your two-week wait.

  • You feel disconnected from your partner because intimacy feels clinical.

  • You dread fertility appointments instead of feeling hopeful.

  • Every pregnancy announcement feels like a punch in the gut.

  • You can’t remember the last time you thought about something other than TTC.

Recognizing these signs doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you’re self-aware enough to protect your well-being.

How to pause without guilt

Guilt is often the hardest part of taking a break. We fear that every month “off” is a missed opportunity, especially if we’re aware of the ticking of the biological clock. But here’s what’s also true: chronic stress, sleep deprivation, and emotional strain don’t help fertility outcomes.

If you decide to pause, try:

  • Setting a clear timeframe. Whether it’s one cycle, three months, or until after a big life event, knowing the pause has a beginning and end can ease anxiety.

  • Communicating openly. Let your partner, and your fertility specialist, know you’re taking a break so everyone is on the same page.

  • Defining boundaries. Will you still track ovulation loosely, or step away completely? Decide so you don’t slip back into “accidental” TTC mode.

  • Filling the space with something restorative. Plan a weekend getaway, take up a hobby, spend time with friends, or simply enjoy the freedom from constant scheduling around fertility treatments.

Will a break hurt my chances?

Time does matter in fertility, especially when factors like age, AMH levels, or specific diagnoses are in play. But a short, intentional pause is unlikely to derail your chances. In fact, many people return from a break with renewed energy and a clearer head for making decisions about their next steps.

For some, stepping back temporarily also creates the mental space to explore options they hadn’t considered before, whether that’s a new treatment protocol, lifestyle changes, or even alternative paths to parenthood.

You’ve not failed

Needing rest is not weakness. It’s wisdom. The fertility journey is rarely a straight line, and even when the goal is urgent and deeply important, there is value in seasons of rest.

So if you’re wondering whether you can take a break from trying without giving up, the answer is yes. And sometimes, that pause might just be the very thing that helps you keep going.

Written by
Gaia Team
The Gaia team is made up of people deeply invested in fertility science and technology. They work directly with medical experts to bring you accurate and actionable information to help people on their own IVF journeys. Many team members have gone through fertility treatment and understand just how personal, challenging, and rewarding the journey can be.
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